So come on, work!

How cutting diamonds:

Rough diamonds do not shine at all. To the diamond, the hardest material in nature, Enclave excite us, to refine it to cap rotates 5000 revolutions per minute for a long time. And millions of rounds should be in the right direction right number to produce wigs sparkling diamond to be symmetric. The beauty inherent in the diamond was exposed thanks to the skill of the sander.

What the diamond and relationship:

Diamonds are considered the symbol of eternity of love since ancient times. My opinion, the relationship being built between partners is very similar to diamond. Takes much longer to build and work correctly, and do not destroy (usually) in one day requires skill to work. And if it works – wow, that brings satisfaction in piles, holding for life and allows us to make the best of our life project – to raise our children.

So what’s the difference between the diamond polishing and polishing reveals the mere lump of carbon leads to curve?

Every couple getting married can be a diamond potential. And from that moment are the sole responsible: Ann glittering diamond they will or they will remain with the carbon block. This work, sanding, is their job.

So question is: how we are realizing the potential diamond we decided to inform the families?

Please note that, after the wedding did not come to honeymoon; automatically go to the workshop and start working. And smart – learning to love the shop and want to leave the day ended well. So good to him, he did not even notice what he does is work. For him it creates art.

And who can not learn, or do not want to learn and willing to work – suffer from every minute of life.

Once I read the tea box of eight rules to life, and the fourth when he said this: Be careful in choosing a partner; single decision that will grow 80% of all happiness – or any of your unhappiness in your life

• appropriate social background
• partner’s age
• the financial situation – economic
• mirror
• His value system

Reasons that are not to choose a mate ..

Every couple of emotional language characteristic. Usually we learn that language at home parents when searching a person to live with him, looking for a desert similar emotional language he knew during his adolescence in the family. For example, a person grew up in a cold, indifferent person chooses. The goal is to find the person who knows to speak the same language and emotional, but with him it would be possible “to write a different end of the story.” Typically, our goal is to find the person with whom we will conduct our familiar emotional communication, but we will try to get better results – more than caring for one.

Typically, the same feature that connected us to the partner, because he speaks in “right here” such as apathy, is the same feature that makes us stay away. If my father was indifferent about everything I did or I said, I choose a pair of indifferent about the injustice in the world and is an excellent understand my feeling, the frustration that I feel with indifference.

So it was a couple a patient. They came to me, When the girl refuses to have sex with the guy. According to her, is critical when it comes to her, humiliating her in front of the children, too. The girl was angry, hurt, and ultimately feel distant and not even think about sex between them. The guy turn do not understand what changed. He always talked like this before She estimated his ability to “not buy anything”, what the guy does not see is that girl at the center of his attention, he criticizes her behavior as someone who runs the family. Now is not the happy couple in front of the world, but the guy in front of the girl.

How did this come out of the tangle?

Seemingly have to choose a select few will understand and stop suffering. He could learn to express himself in a less offensive. In fact, constantly monitors the girl, and she does not see what she was doing wrong. The couple’s case did not change pattern of criticism, and they also do not really learned to accept their relationship as it is. They stopped to get treatment, the tension subsided for a time, and probably a little longer they would turn to couples therapy.

Myth number one: parity is to be together

Myth Number 2: Duality She loved
her perception most people grow up is a love relationship is really the moment there is love – there is also a relationship . myth of love is the most incorrect myth, that makes people confuse love couples mistakenly believe they have a relationship if they like. In practice, there is no connection between love and relationship. Most people have experienced love – not experienced a relationship with those people whom they loved or when they were in love. Relationship is not necessarily love but the same interests and goals of both partners in a set. Spouses interests and common goals can build a life together full of very rich, compared to couples in love without the marital bond shared interests between them can survive only a short time.

Myth No. 3: marriage is a match
by match myth anyone has a lid that fits him just as he would the same lid is perfect couples experience infinite love. In practice, this myth is confusing and misleading, because for most couples do not match, but rather different fertilization. strongest base long double connection – years is rather a difference, mutual fertilization, contrast and acceptance. Differences, and adjustment, are those that tie couples together for many years, because the best way of human beings to grow, grow, prosper and grow is to learn new things and different from those familiar to us.

Myth No. 4: Duality requires reduction of the self and suffering
Many people believe marriage is a place that requires personal sacrifice and suffering. According to this myth, to maintain a relationship necessary sacrifices, have a duty to reduce the ego, to be who your partner wants us to be and who we truly are, to hide ourselves and refrain from being who we are. In practice, the myth This brings marital crises rather deep tensions to divorce, because people are discovering that they are victims, they suffer, they are depressed and that they are not happy – all because they are in relationships. But the truth is, marriage is not necessarily a place to reduce the ego, or suffering, but it can be as much a phrase I’m happy. But it is important to remember that the way to happiness is not related to personal relationship does not depend on her own but rather the personal ability of each partner to find happiness and satisfaction His unique way to exercise his right to be who he is, as it is.

tip: marriage is a framework of cooperation between two people with common goals and interests

separation symbiosis symbiosis in particular there is a relationship between both partners. But, when a couple divorces – is integral not only to each other but also this suffocating. Having no choice – people become self-employed by the divorce. Men and women are forced to increase their revenue to sustain a reasonable standard of living after divorce, they must work harder in terms of giving to children, they must open up socially to increase their chances of finding a new partner and they must overcome the pain, loss and loneliness that are the lot of divorcing.

Divorced people are forced to become independent again and complete two people. Even if this process is difficult – is still very empowering. and as they develop their independence after a divorce – so the more they are stronger and maintain. Of course, once they find a new relationship – they fall again re the type of symbiosis weakens. However, divorced couples typically have experienced the pain of separation known to preserve their independence more than ever to have experienced couples divorce within the new relationship they formed after the divorce – because they are more cautious and they want to be better prepared in terms of their degree of independence, in which case will have to experience another farewell or all together.

Divorce process is one of the painful and frightening process. He robs people of their life they had built, the dreams, hopes, the obvious reliance on another person manufactures and security relationships. But then again, it’s incredibly empowering process – spiritually, economically and emotionally. Many women become more independent after him financially because they can not rely on the man supported them. Many men become more involved fathers to their children and give more because they can not impose more than the parental role of the woman with whom they married.

tip: One of the great advantages of a prominent divorce is a personal empowerment – the woman and man.